Yoga and Counselors and Love Questions to Ask – How Yoga Can Help You Progress in Therapy

by | Feb 15, 2012 | Alternative Health, Couples Retreat, Family Counseling

jasmine-kaloudis-philadelphia-yoga-teacher-synergy-by-jasmineYoga and Counselors help your with love questions to ask not only your significant other but also yourself.   Many counselors that I have met recently recommend that you have a spiritual practice to help you become more mindful of negative thought patterns.  I actually know quite a few counselors who I have gotten connected to recently and almost all of them tell me how they would love their clients to have a practice that helps them to center, calm and to relieve anxiety.   There are some that have a yoga and counselors special seminars where they teach mindfulness or meditation.  I think when a professional also has a background in human psychology that can make a hatha class even Couples Working Togethermore powerful.

 

I actually know one holistic doctor that also was certified as a yoga teacher and she often recommends to her patients to do yoga in order to manage certain medical conditions such as high blood pressure, anxiety and depression.  Yoga and counselors seem to go pretty well together and having a personal practice, either at home or at a studio can be a great adjust to any therapy program that you are a part of.

I know for me when I was going through trauma I would often using my intense yoga class as an emotional detox… even crying as I was doing the poses.  I was crying not because the poses were physically demanding but because I was just feeling so much release in the poses.  When you are sweaty and straining in a yoga class then if you start to tear up , as long as it is a very full class with some loud music no one actually notices.  In these kinds of vigorous classes, everyone is so focused on their own struggle and their own practice that they are not tuning in to what is going on with their neighbor so it ends up being a safe place to release pent up sadness.

For those that work with couples or with couples before they are getting married, they stress how important it is to go over love questions to ask your future husband or future wife.  I wish I had done that before some of my significant relationships.  There are so many critical love questions to ask that help you both examine your values, beliefs and what kind of lifestyle you want together.

Questions can range from asking about pets, what kind of vacations to take,  how much you want your in-laws to be a part of your life, how Learn more on the Author's websiteclean you want the house to how late or early you go to sleep or wake up, how many children you want to have,  how much to spend on going out or household items, the role of religion or spirituality in your relationship  and literally hundreds of other questions.  The one I have looked at is “1000 Questions For Couples”  which is  a comprehensive list of 1000 questions to ask before marriage.

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Sleeping with or Shooting Your Enemy? Review of SaveTheMarriage.com

by | Jan 30, 2012 | Couples Yoga, Date Night, Family Counseling, Romantic Date Ideas

My Review of SaveTheMarriage.com, Saving Marriage, Stop Divorce,

My Review of SaveTheMarriage.com which gives you tool to stop divorce

When I was about to marry my hottie, hellenic hubby I told him, “Divorce is not an option, but murder is”.  If one of us ever wanted out someone is going to have to push someone else off the Grand Canyon.

Did you go into your marriage thinking, “Well, if it doesn’t work out, we can just get a divorce.”  Going in with this kind of watery commitment is not going to hold you two together when the seas get rough. Marriage is a deep psychological process that has shaken the foundation of my identity.  I think I knew I was married when I started to use “We” instead of “I” and “our” instead of “mine”.  Shifting from an individual to an entity was a huge shift in my perception and lifestyle.

I read Dr Lee Baucom’s book about how to divorce-proof your marriage with professional and personal interest.  Do you ever have those days that you get so frustrated with your spouse that you can’t form words and just want to whack them upside the head with a frying pan?

Dr Baucom’s present a different paradigm of couples counseling that is a shift away from the meaningless “finding ways to communicate better”.  His book presents key distinctions about the nature of relationship, power struggles that inevitably come up, issues of control, independence and feeling like your marriage is a ledger book filled with “I did this for you, so you owe me”.  He also makes us question why your marriage is important to you and what is it actually providing for you “security, support, companionship, social status etc).

The most valuable part of the e-book is not in any of his philosophies but in the homework that you do on your relationship to keep it from going in a downward cycle and to shift the direction to an upward cycle.  His e-book is centered on action and consciously choosing so that you get some forward and upward positive momentum in your relationship.

Here is one of his homework assignments that was valuable to me.Stop Divorce

  • What  are the top three ways your partner feels loved?
  • What are the top three ways you best feel loved?
  • In the next week, what are the 5 ways you will commit to showing love to your spouse?

This is not a quick read and not a manual to be read for education value and should not be read casually while in line for the grocery store, but neither is the decision to leave your marriage.  This book is intended for those that feel like their marriage is quickly disintegrating and not sure how to salvage it, even if your partner is unwilling to put energy into reviving it such as going to couples therapy.  Think of it as marriage boot-camp and be willing to things that you are not comfortable with and that are not convenient.  Are you committed to your marriage or are you committed to your excuses?